1) You probably don't want to hear this but my ex makes $520,000 a year.
3) It's funny when I go out without you and you're stuck at work wishing you could be out and you worry about me.
What the fuck? Those are all douchebag comments that should never have been vocalized. I'm starting to think that he likes having a jealous, possessive boyfriend, and he interprets me reacting to his fun as me caring for him. I'm too easy going for that. I call him on it every time but he reads my reaction how he wants to. Take the rich ex for example. I don't care how much money he makes, good for him, what bothers me about that comment is that Mike assumed it would piss me off, he even said "you probably don't want to hear this", but he told me anyways! I care that he obviously cares about finances and status and that is what concerns me.
So anyways... yesterday I'm at work and I get a text from Mike. This is the exact thread:
Mike: Remind me to ask u a question tonight when I see u ok!
So. For starters these friends of his are hot jacked rich guys. They're a couple, but that means nothing in this slutty gay world and I don't know if Mike has ever hooked up with them, but who in their right mind would be comfortable with their boyfriend taking off to Miami to stay and party and do drugs with muscle daddies? Muscle daddies I haven't even met yet..... He knew it would bother me, he knew I wouldn't be for it, and I think he pulled me directly into the decision making process as a passive aggressive way to make me responsible for his fun. I didn't want to play that game so I texted that I trust him and he can make his own decisions. I don't think any of my texts showed that I was pissed, but I guess he got that from the common sense that what he was intending to do for the weekend was completely inappropriate.
Well what happens later that night?.... we were at dinner and this Kevin character texts Mike and asks if I wanted to come to Miami with them. Fuck. I sort of wish he just committed to going when I texted him that it was ok, then I would have to deal with my decision. Now, I'm just dealing with more drama and bullshit over Mike making this decision. So I felt like Mike said something about me not supporting the trip and they invited me to shut me up. I asked if that was true and Mike said that he didn't say anything to them. Now what?
I'd loooove to go to Miami but the money is an issue plus I'm working the weekend and I have to get it off. And what if I can't get it off now? Will he still go? Does he even want me to come or is this a pity invite? Such a small issue has now been expanded into this complex bullshit.
Did I handle this the wrong way? Am I out of line\too protective? What do we think?
6 comments:
this is a sick game he is playing. he needs to know love is not about envy or jealousy. should come from a place of sincerity. good luck, you know how this will end.
Don't go. It'll just annoy you even more. I assure you you will regret it.
And you talking about worrying about the money later --> See? You're overreacting already. He already got to you.
And play his game. He won't stop until you show him...
Sigh..
I don't think you should go. Its not even the money thing. I think you might be asking for trouble if you go. Neither of you are there yet and its already caused some issues. I agree with borg_queen. Don't go.
Dude, I would go for sure, I mean go for a vacation if nothing else. If he didn't want you to go, he probably wouldn't have told you that his friends invited you. I would just go and have a good time. Hit the beach and order some miami vices with a 151 floater, it will fuck your shit up. Plus Miami nightlife is nuts. let me know how it goes man.
You are in quite a tricky situation. I am sorry to say that Mike can get a bit superficial and insecure. The vibe I got from the beginning of your post is that he is a bit too much into looks, money and appearances. I also think that if you go, you will be hosted by his muscle daddy friends and feel obligated to them. How well does Mike know them? There is also the danger that Mike will keep on fixating on the daddies’ lifestyle, money etc…
On the other hand, they might prove to be really nice guys and you might end up having a very good time. Sometimes it’s better to regret things you’ve done than things you didn’t do.
I can’t tell you what to do. You have to see what would make you unhappy. Try deciding on going and see how excited you get and then consider not going. Which decision makes you feel better? Also, consider alternatives in case the ‘daddies’ don’t prove good hosts…
I don't know if I would have called this a game at first. I think it's good that he's asking you if you would be cool with it. I mean, sure you probably aren't comfortable with it, but if you trust him, then what's the difference. Sucks that it turned into something bigger. I say, just go with it. If you can't get off work, let him go knowing that you trust he won't do anything stupid. And if you can go, just have fun! You'll be in Miami. :)
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